1) "Your stepfather? I'd like to meet him.""Oh no... why?""I'm not sure that's a good idea.""Christian unlocks the door, his mouth in a grim line.""Are you ashamed of me?""""No!"" It's my turn to sound exasperated. ""Introduce you to my dad as what? 'This is the man who deflowered me and wants to start a bdsm relationship'. You're not wearing running shoes.","E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey"

2) "People are like M&Ms. They come in a variety of colors, they're hard on the outside, and full of obscene yumminess on the inside.","Michael Makai, Domination & Submission: The bdsm Relationship Handbook"

3) Sex-positive feminism embraces the entire range of human sexuality and is based on the idea that sexual freedom is an essential component of women's freedom. - Madison Young,"Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: bdsm, Role Play and the Erotic Edge"

4) "Life is about having the courage, or finding it along the way, to become a fuller person so that you can enjoy it more and feel more alive by pursuing interests that might be out of the ordinary. It is about finding joy in connecting with others, even when those connections involve the risk of getting hurt.It is about being fueled by curiosity, not by fear.","Dolores Derrian, Polyamory and bdsm: Discovering Love, Sex, Vulnerability and Radical Honesty"

5) bdsm is not liberating nor does it promote equality between men and women.,"J.F. Kelly, A Woman's Pleasure"

6) "I participate in bdsm, but I wasn't abused as a child. I don't hate women, or particularly enjoy hurting women. Sometimes I make them feel pain, but it's consensual, it serves a purpose—to get them off—and they can indicate that they wish me to stop at any time. I do like the power I get from total submission, and the trust that my partner puts in me to give me everything, from her mind to her body, while expecting nothing in return—except the understanding that I won't violate that trust.","Nenia Campbell, Bound to Accept"

7) "In my experience, the romance novels written about bdsm have about as much in common with actual bdsm relationships as a child playing with a jump rope.","Nenia Campbell, Bound to Accept"

8) "There's nothing sexier than confidence, and nothing dumber than over-confidence. Life is all about where you draw the line between the two.","Michael Makai, Domination & Submission: The bdsm Relationship Handbook"

9) "A swirl of dust and dirt picked up from the shadows that fell over everything in this grungy corner of the world. The dancing movement was hypnotizing. The sand and grit had rested long enough to have drifted into obscurity. But fate had different plans, and this gust of wind had lifted them and turned their obscure and unknown existence into a chaotic tempest of action that could not be ignored.","Lexie Syrah, Torn: A Dark bdsm Romance Novel"

10) "I don’t think I like the idea that you just control me, but you get to do anything you like.”“Ah, but that’s because you don’t understand the power exchange. Note that I used the word exchange. Listen, there are as many different ways to practice bdsm as there are people who practice it. I like to play. I like to know that my lover will turn to me when she needs something. I’ll want to protect you. And I like to give you what you need. It makes me feel good. It makes me feel necessary.","Lexi Blake, A Dom is Forever"

11) You are the evil scientist of your desires. - Ignacio Rivera,"Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: bdsm, Role Play and the Erotic Edge"

12) "Fear triggers the fight-or-flight response, fueled by adrenaline, which, as it turns out, is chemically related to amphetamines. Granted, it's a very different kind of high for mindfuckers: not a mellow, floaty ""my vulva is one with the universe"" high but a jittery, revved-up ""oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck"" kind of high. Endorphins are like great downers but adrenaline is uppers all the way. And it's just as addictive. Don't believe me? Go ask anyone who likes to jump off bridges or out of airplanes. - Edge","Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: bdsm, Role Play and the Erotic Edge"

13) "Papa, you were right. Love did come after security.","Jade Onyx, Prison Break: A Hispanic & Latino bdsm Erotic Romance"

14) "I’m so exhausted with worry, I go to bed early that day. But hours later, I’m still awake. I can’t seem to fall asleep. Not without him by my side. When did I become so addicted to Jake? Why do I crave his company? Since forever, my conscience responds. After my father’s death, I went off the deep end because he was not there. I sought the bdsm lifestyle, not because I yearned for it, but because I wanted the pain. If Jake had been there, somehow I could have muddled through the aftermath of my father’s funeral without looking for someone to tie me up and administer punishment. I wanted to be beaten as an outlet for my agony. Not that it made any difference. Even after I flew to Brazil, the pain was still there. It still is. And I know why. Because he’s not by my side. As much as I want him to be here with me, he never signed on to babysit me for life.","Magda Alexander, Storm Conquered"

15) "I sat at the computer and started my bdsm research in earnest. I learned three things: I still very much like the idea of wielding the power, I do seem to have an inclination toward the opposite in spite of myself, and there are some things on the internet that you simply cannot unsee.","Lilly Black, A Jade's Trick"

16) "My conversations with people who are just beginning to understand and include transsexual and transgender people in their plans or programs lean heavily on this. For them, the very fact of a transsexual who is a real student at their school or client of their agency can be new and surprising. But for queers and transfolk, who have institutionalized an additional set of queerly normative genders, it can sometimes be difficult to hear that we, too, must expand. If butch daddies want to crochet, if twinkly ladyboys are sometimes tops in bed, if burly bears can do bdsm play as little girls, if femme fatales build bookcases in their spare time, these things, too, are not just good but great. They bring us, I believe, wonderful news: news that gendered options can continue to explode, that the chefs in the kitchen of gender are creating new and imaginative specials every day. That we, all of us, are the chefs. Hi. Have a whisk.",S. Bear Bergman

17) "I love redheads. It’s not the hair color, it’s the crazy.","Michael Makai, Domination & Submission: The bdsm Relationship Handbook"

18) It’s easy to fall in love online with someone you’d slide away from on a bus stop bench. A little too damn easy.,"Michael Makai, Domination & Submission: The bdsm Relationship Handbook"

19) "In my eyes, bdsm is not a sexual experience, it's a spiritual connection.",Simon Shroud

20) "Sometimes, I think our lifestyle has become the victim of a “World of Kinkcraft” gamer mentality, where people just want to download a cheat sheet or a step-by-step walk-through. Many newcomers yearn to ""learn the rules"" of the lifestyle as quickly as possible, so they can get right to ""winning the game."" These are relationships, people. Real bdsm relationships, involving real people with real feelings, living really complicated lives. If this was easy, everyone would be doing it. Stop looking for shortcuts and easy answers.","Michael Makai, The Warrior Princess Submissive"

21) "Bottoming doesn't make you a submissive any more than standing in my kitchen makes you a cook. By the way, while you’re there, please make me a sandwich.","Michael Makai, Domination & Submission: The bdsm Relationship Handbook"